Tuesday, January 23, 2007

In Which Our Heroine Peers Towards The Future


Posts have been sparse recently, and I confess my usual complaint of writer's block has little to do with it.

Of course I've been feeling hourly outrage at the purely asinine hijink "stylings" of the current president and administration as they relate to current events in the Middle East. I'm amazed (and I really shouldn't be) that the Military Channel actually features television shows all about the war in Iraq - it's not even over with, the body not yet warm and already some scumbag executive is making a buck out of it. Ptooie!

Other current events, cultural oddities, and horrifying news stories do capture my attention, but it's more difficult than usual to turn my reaction into posts.

Most of my energies have lately been directed towards my homefront - I am on the brink of possibly trading in my current Cupcakes for an entirely new one - a bolder, more energetic and more dynamic Cupcake. It's an opportunity that could be extremely good for me for quite some time. The fat lady has yet to sing, however, so I won't jinx myself any further.

Meanwhile, I'm still reading a lot, regularly checking in with the ever-growing list of favorite blogs, sorting out various family crises, and generally focusing on keeping my head above water.

It's a dog's life, innit?

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

File Under: Marriage, Ten Entire Years


Mr. FH and I recently celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary. It was a trifle surreal, actually, to come to the ten year point, as in some ways it feels like our wedding day was yesterday, a day which recalls numerous fond memories for me. We had a very understated civil ceremony at City Hall, then a short champagne reception given by the best man followed by our own cocktail party reception.

With so many of our guests and Mr. FH in the restaurant business, it was a given that we celebrated in two elegantly appointed restaurants in New York. There was nothing traditional about the ceremony or the receptions, but every detail suited us perfectly, which was all we cared about. For example, I wore a winter ivory suit which didn't top the bill for the wine we served at our reception, and we spent money on a lavish appetizer spread rather than a photographer or band.

Ten years together is an accomplishment of which I find myself quite proud. These years have not always been easy, but they have been challenging, surprising, peppered with adventures; a relationship graced by joy, touched by tears, and immensely satisfying for me.

As in every marriage, there were many occasions when I wasn't sure we'd survive into the next day, much less another year, and occasions when we were both hanging on by the slenderest of threads. We've learned the valleys of despair are a glimpse into the abyss and that the hills of exultation are indeed the highest.

As they say, the secret to a happy marriage is to never go to bed angry. Our secret is that it is much easier to do when one partner works days and the other nights (and you both get a bunch of time with the bed all to yourself).

Thursday, January 11, 2007

This Week in Its Briefs - Way Too Tight


1. Right before Christmas a quasi-friend of ours (which is what I call the position between warm acquaintance and close friend) had a heart attack and spent the holiday in the hospital getting fixed up. The weirdness is that this guy is barely 40; he has a fairly standard list of vices but many people I know, me included, have the same list or a far more egregious one and toddle along just fine. I ran into him and his wife tonight and while he's on the mend he's not out of the woods yet, and is eschewing the caffeinated/nicotined vices while embracing the fruited/vegetable virtues.

2. There's a gigantic tree on my block that I pass on my way home every night. The trunk is so large that it's difficult to see around it, perched as it is on the grass verge between the sidewalk and the curb. I call it the Drunk Mexican tree. Why, you ask? Not so much during January but so many times beginning in late summer and even as recently as early December I would walk down the street on my way home and be surprised to find at least two or three Mexican laborers behind the tree drinking their cans of beer wrapped in paper bags. I'm sure this is an urban phenomenon but you gotta admit it is, on the Scale of Odd, very much a 7.5 out of 10. Why do they pick this tree to crouch behind? Are they hiding? If so, who are they hiding from? And why are innocent passersby like myself always surprised to see them?

3. I still have my Christmas tree and decorations up - this weekend I'll take everything down. We get a live tree every year, and the exercise of removing it from our second floor apartment is an annual chore that I quite dislike, especially if the tree is large. After many years in this apartment I have the process down to a science, but I'll never forget the dismantling of our first Christmas. We had a quite tall tree that year, and as I fussed about trying to figure out how to wrap it up and maneuver it down the stairs Mr. Fresh Hell took matters into his own hands. He calmly opened up the guest bedroom window and heaved the tree out onto the sidewalk, serenely deaf to my cries of "Wait!". Our apartment faces the street; I rushed to the window in time to see the tree bounce once on the sidewalk and fall onto its side, mercifully missing either random pedestrian or parked car. Needless to say I ran outside immediately and dragged it to the curb. Also perhaps needless to say Mr. FH is no longer a part of the de-Christmasing process.

4. I really hate that KIA car commercial that uses the "so long, farewell" song from The Sound of Music. Having knowledge of the inside workings of the advertising industry can be alarming on many occasions; this is one. That commercial doesn't exist in a vacuum and isn't created on a whim.

Some creative team thought up the idea and the execution, which was then pitched to the client. The client agreed to the execution of the concept and signed off on it, which leads to an actual TV shoot involving a director, actors, and actual money being paid to all. But it doesn't end there - post production editing, for of course more money, turns a rough cut into a finished product - this process shepherded all the way from beginning to end by beleagured agency account executives and again, the client, who at all points agrees that this spot should be made. There are also media decisions made about the frequency of airtime, particular network and/or time slot for the commercial, and I'm quite content to know next to nothing about that particular process.

Automotive advertising is a terribly complex beast of its own, however, and it's entirely possible that this process as I've described it happened within the space of two weeks, maybe less. That's a criminal lack of time in which to do great work, and it entails a huge number of man hours for the result. But if the result is this commercial?

High hopes for 2007, indeed. At the very least we should get some decent commercials out of it.