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2007-03-01T06:00:00.000-05:00

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But this isn't a very good analogy, oh scholar. T...

2006-03-29T19:41:00.000-05:00

But this isn't a very good analogy, oh scholar. The athlete, while re-shaping the body, is doing so to perform a sport in a certain way, depending on the rigors behind the sport. The achievement is definitely there, although the impetus for that achievement can be very psychologically complicated. But for the most part, the desire is health and performance, NOT a grossly distorted version of the "ultra thinness" which can be so devasting to young women.

The anorexic, on the other hand, is (for the most part, I'm generalizing here, as I hope you know) re-shaping the body in a very negative, unhealthful way, leading often to hospitalization. Sometimes the impetus is a fear and denial of impending womanhood, or they are seeking to control at least one aspect of their lives at a time when this is probably the only thing they can choose (by the way, we both know a few mothers who have had daughters with this problem - three guesses!).

On further reflection: would you draw a distinctio...

2006-03-29T08:47:00.000-05:00

On further reflection: would you draw a distinction between an anorexic and an athlete? Both are re-shaping their bodies (or trying to) to reflect their will. Should we really stifle such aspiration? Perhaps its the purpose behind the body-sculpting - the athlete wants to achieve, not just look good?

Well, my secret I think is two fold - I decided no...

2006-03-27T16:19:00.000-05:00

Well, my secret I think is two fold - I decided not to let food have power over me that is all out of proportion, and I have really really tired to stop talking about it to other women. In my opinion, the constant talking about it just makes it worse.

True, I don't think guys apologize for what they consume, and it's only been lately that anyone cares (and it's a metrosexual kind of care) about men's physiques. I'm talking about some serious food problems here, and while i'm sure there are some statistics out there that prove the exact opposite, I just don't think the majority of bulimia & anorexia sufferers are men.

And even if the pressure has come down on them a little bit more, society doesn't watch every single bit of food that goes into their mouths and rate it for propriety now, do they? Whereas women get the laser beam gaze when they don't toe the line (or if they do the line - they get the lazer beam gaze at what they eat no matter what).

glad you liked the "bound feet" reference - I was hoping it worked a little.

Food pathologies: yup, I saw them as recently as S...

2006-03-27T08:54:00.000-05:00

Food pathologies: yup, I saw them as recently as Sat. night at a friend's graduation party: two normally proportioned young women, each in good shape within a year or so of childbirth, announcing to each other that they "needed to lose another ten pounds". As you say, the secret is to learn to eat in moderation - only enough to satisfy that brie-lust.

Men go through this, too. Admittedly, society's standards for male beauty are a little more forgiving, but we're under the saame, self-imposed pressure to sculpt our bodies. Perhaps the difference is: we don't talk about it? We don't need to tell our best bud "only one six-pack tonight - it goes straight to me gut" - to apologize for what we obviously want to consume?

BTW: liked your "bound by conventions/ bound feet of Chinese" parallel.

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